A question that I have been thinking through recently is, what is the single greatest thing I can do for my children. Once you have children, your life changes. You can’t plan for anything the same anymore. Your energy and your commitments change and now you have a responsibility that is higher than anything else.
In my case, I have the responsibility of raising two precious little kids. They really are amazing human beings and am I beyond honored to be their dad. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t wonder if I am being the best father and role model I can be.
I want my kids to grow up to be the greatest people that they can be and make an impact on the world. To do that, I have to make sure that I am teaching them and being the best example I can be.
Recently, I asked myself this question, what is the single greatest thing I can do for my children. After making a list of several ideas, I realized that there was one thing that was more important than any of the others.
Jackie Bledsoe once wrote this on his blog and I totally agree with it. “There is one thing that a father can do that will provide the greatest impact on his children’s lives. The “Single Greatest Thing A Dad Can Do For His Children” is to love their mother. Plain and simple! No matter your relationship “status“, loving your child’s mom is the greatest thing you can do for them!”
There is so much truth in that small paragraph. How I love my wife will show my kids how to love and how to be loved. It will show them the importance of value and the importance of people. What they see me do will allow them to see how special their mother is. It will set in motion an example of love for them to follow for the rest of their lives.
I also love that Jackie adds in that it does not matter your relationship status. If you are no longer married, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t still teach your kids how to love their mother. I know that is a hard pill to swallow for some people but after working with teens for over 15 years I have seen so many hurt kids by the hatred that their parents show each other.
So How Are You Doing With That?
Today marks our 10 year wedding anniversary. It is crazy to think about all that we have packed into the last ten years. It has been an amazing journey with happy and sad times. We have had great years and years that we survived…but we have done it together.
I am not perfect at loving my wife but I am committed to trying to do better everyday. Time and emotional energy seem to always be the hardest things to find in life but you cannot allow all that to get used at work and leave your family with nothing. That is where the trouble begins.
I read a great book by Andy Stanley several years ago that helped begin to put some of this in perspective. The book is called, When Work and Family Collide, and I highly recommend it. When the book first released it was titled Choosing to Cheat and talked about how often times we cheat our families by the energy and priority we put into work.
If you have not made this a priority in your marriage and in raising your kids than I would challenge you to start today. Today could be the turning point for your marriage, your relationship, and your parenting that sets the tone and direction for each day going forward.